As I watch you develop and grow, and I think back to my childhood, I’m amazed at what you are accomplishing in life. Whether it’s school, sports, guitar, cooking, your ease with technology, or simply just who you are becoming as exceptional people, I’m often in awe. But I’m also concerned. I’m concerned because, well, frankly, you have advantages in life that I didn’t have. And, yes, that concerns me.
Let me start by saying that this is not about being happy. Happy is the most important, but it’s a bigger topic for a different day. Today is about earning your way in life. That’s one element of being happy, but it’s just that – one element. Let’s be clear, I’m not saying that our life is easy, but it is privileged. You kind of came along after much of the adversity was behind us. That concerns me, because I’ve come to believe that adversity is important. It’s how we develop and grow. It prepares us for the variance that is life. It doesn’t seem like it at the time, but the struggle is what makes us successful. It’s what makes life good.
And our life is pretty good. So I think it’s important that I offer you some advice. I’ve been waiting a while to say this — until you were old enough to understand. Now is that time. So here it goes.
Have you noticed that we’re rich? Not rich rich, but rich enough that we have a nice house, nice cars and we generally we have a nice lifestyle. We go to Hawaii, or somewhere nice, every year. Life is good. But here’s the thing. We’re not all rich. Put another way, your mom and I are rich, but you’re not.
Now, that’s not surprising, as you’re just 12 and 15, but it is important that you understand that you’re not rich. Sure, it seems like you’re rich, as you live in the same house as your mother and I do, ride in the same cars and vacation wherever we go. But that’s our lifestyle. You enjoy it because you’re living with us, but after you move out, after school, once you start working, you will most definitely realize that you’re not rich. So I’m offering this advice to give you a head start.
Sure, when the time comes you’ll get a job, or start a business, and you’ll have money for rent, food, an iphone and who knows what, but that’s not “inner city house paid for” money, not luxury car money, not Hawaii money. If you want that — if you want that lifestyle — you need to achieve that on your own. You need to earn that.
That means more than getting good grades just because you can, choosing what’s easy over what challenges you and much more than believing that good, is good enough.
You need to work hard, really hard, at whatever you do. Sure, you get to play video games, watch TV and relax, but that should be the break from the hard. Good at math? Be great. Good at cooking “for your age” — be great for your age, be great period. Guitar, football, whatever you choose to invest your time in, go all out. Be curious and don’t be put off. Speak up and care about whatever you’re doing.
Look, I don’t know what you’ll be passionate about when you’re older, and I’m sure you don’t yet either, so just be open to every opportunity and work to be great at whatever you do. Do that and one day you’ll wake up to discover that your dreams are coming true.
Then you’ll be rich. Probably not rich rich — but then again you never know.